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That’s My Song

This post in a continuation of what we touched on last week. We are still in the series of music and its effect on violence in our communities, particularly in romantic relationships. It is sometimes hard to analyze the songs that we enjoy so much because we do not want to admit that we are internalizing¬†a substance that creates a culture of disrespect and violence for others. We can say, “well, it’s just entertainment,” or “it’s not up to the artist, it’s the listener’s choice to commit harmful actions.” However, art and reality are in a dangerous cycle of imitation. So much so, that the lines are being blurred and life is imitating art far more than art imitating life. Individuals are trying to become who they see across their screens more and more each day.

We took the time to break down lyrics from popular songs to fully dig into their meanings and how these ideas could fuel a community to react in violence against women. We then discussed if songs such as Chief Keef’s “You” should be banned based on lyrics like:

“You say you ain’t gon’ let me f***, and I feel you/ but you gon’ suck my d*** ‘fore I kill you”

Songs like these may seem catchy to some, but the underlying messages are very damaging to the image of women and taints our views on healthy relationships. While we may not be able to actually ban these songs, we hope that you will become critical of the music that you listen to. When we open our eyes to the messages being thrown at us, then make the conscious decision to live above the “hype,” we are able to start making some major cultural changes that have the potential to change lives of those who are oppressed by our current ways of thinking.

Here are some of the responses from our YAB members:

“Music that glofifies violence against women should be banned. Not every woman is the same and it is disrespectful. If little kids grow up hearing the same thing then they are going to thing that that is how to treat a female. It’s not. Everyone should be treated respectful. If the person who is singing or rapping doesn’t think it’s rude, how would they feel if their mother’s or other loved ones were disrespected. They are bundling us up into stereotypes so they may as well bundle the females they love into the same disrespectful categories.”

“I honestly do not think music that glorifies women being disrespected should be banned because that is someone’s hustle. I mean, yes, it is very disturbing at times…but I sometimes think it is not the artist’s fault. People in this generation only listen to that and all of the artists ¬†are trying to do something that their fans like. Without fans song would not have been released and then become popular. These days, that is the only thing that sells, so you have to do what you have to do to make money. No I do not agree with the message but it’s reality.”

“In my opinion, this type of music should be banned. .If we could somehow tell these rapperrs what they are promoting maybe they would change their minds. If we could somehow tell these rappers that they are promoting and condoning rape, human trafficking, date rap drugs…then maybe, just maybe, they would change their way of thinking. But, first, it is not the mind of the rappers we should change. It is the mind of the youth who are buying into these messages. If we told the youth what today’s rap music is promoting and how it hurts them, maybe the youth will realize this is wrong and we should work together to stop it.”

How do you guys feel about the messages in today’s music and what do you thing we could do together to make a change?